obsidianbear ([info]obsidianbear) wrote,
@ 2005-01-19 12:20:00
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male biphobia?
Do you think men can be biphobic? Usually, it's lesbians and bisexual women that have beef with each other. I don't hear men argue as much about it. I wonder if bisexual men have a plus because they would be perceived as more butch. Maybe with gay male tolerance of non-monogamy, there's more of a "So? And?" when it comes to guys who kick it with both genders.

But then again, I can't say I've heard of anyone on LJ identify as a bisexual man. There's a women's book called "Closer to Home: Bisexuality and Feminism" which states that maybe sexual orientation is a male secondary sex characteristic, but that women may learn or be pushed into their sexual choices. Maybe most guys are either Kinseyan 0s or 6s. But I read a book by Fred Whitam that looked at Brazil, Guatemala, and the Philippines and it said that outside of the US there is much contact between 1s and 6s.

You think a bisexual bear would have an easy to coming out or a hard time?

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[info]gloeden
2005-01-19 10:33 am UTC (link)
Oh, there's APLENTY bi-men on livejournal.
I think that there has long been issues within the gay male community about bisexuals.
And I think most het men just don't talk about these things usually.
But that's my own experience.
You want to check out a bi bear. See "trapezebear"'s journal.
He's even written a book about bisexuality.
I think he's kinda groovy.

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[info]azrael162
2005-01-19 10:45 am UTC (link)
I have had very mixed reactions from people when they learned that I am bisexual, ranging from excitement, indifference and disgust. It all depends on how open-minded the other person is. As strange as it may sound, I have found that gay men are more likely to have a problem with it than straight men.

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[info]obsidianbear
2005-01-19 08:49 pm UTC (link)
two questions

1. Who treats you better: straight women or gay men?

2. If I remember correctly, your bunny ears photo reveals that you have nipple rings. I know neo-punk music is in, but I'd still say titty rings are associated with gay men. So when you lift your shirt off around straight women suitors, how do they respond?

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[info]azrael162
2005-01-20 12:43 am UTC (link)
1. Well, while I receive positive and negative feedback on both sides, the gay men I have associated with have an easier time accepting that I like women than straight women have accepting that I like men.

2. I know a lot of straight men with nipple rings, and women don't seem to think much of it. I get the occasional questions about how it felt, or why I did it, but that is it.

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[info]polomex
2005-01-19 10:57 am UTC (link)
One of my most extensive research papers in college was on Biphobia. I'd say it's widespread all around.

As [info]azrael162 said, I'd believe that gay men are more likely to have a problem, simply because they don't take the bi identity seriously. Since many gay men, when first exploring their sexualities, identified as bi and then later gay, they assume that 'bi' isn't a real identity, but rather a stepping stone to 'gay'. Many also see it as a gay man's feeble attempt at holding onto being straight and being 'normal.'

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